Long Distance Love
As a thirty year-old woman living in today’s society, dating sucks.
I can already see you nodding behind the screen, yet I’m not here to write and advice column or complain about men. In fact, I have a boyfriend. After three years of sifting through, not so good men, I think I found the one folks.
The only snag, we are in a LDR (short for long distance relationship) for now.
Before entering this relationship, I thought it’d take a bit more to find a partner. To give you an idea, I’ve been in two relationships, five years each. The failure in them painfully obvious, but I took my lessons and moved on. Both of them had a bit of long distance and time together. I feel like this will be no different.
So instead of us moaning and groaning how we miss each other I decided to find a solution. My first place was of course, Google.
There I found a number of apps, most of them requiring payment of that we both have the same kind of phone. So, I hate to tell you, if you partner has an android and you have an apple, it rules most apps out.
I remember complain to him about wanting to close the gap between us, wanting there to be something we could share.
We already did the typical LDR- stuff: video calls, play online games, talk on the phone whilst building gunpla.
But I craved more, something like a journal, where we could write down our feelings on hard topics, or even leave each other lighthearted messages for those moments where you wish you had your partner to hug.
I kept my search until he asked me a simple question: “Do you know what One Note is?”
I of course know what One Note is, what I didn’t realize was the full potential it had. See I can use it on my Macbook just as he can use it on his PC.
Now you’re probably raising an eyebrow. See if you have an outlook e-mail it’s free to use. In it we each have our own Notebooks, and in each notebook. We have sections all labeled; I’ll say my titles are pretty clever like “Corny not Horny” is where I leave him random love notes.
“Not Riveting” are the stories of past experiences with other men, whether it be dates or sex.
In our case it has benefited our relationship, we have written down our insecurities, wishes, curiosities about one another without it seeming like a chore. It gives us stuff to talk about, and it’s like our own little world.
A corner of digital bliss.
This is all without exploring the app’s full potential, since you can leave recordings, insert pictures, make checklists.
Which had me thinking, what else can I do?
Sex whilst one of the more challenging parts of being in a LDR, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t have a solution. For most couples it hot texts, pictures, and of course I use those.
I just added a We-Vibe to my collection of toys ($149), that is powered through an app that my partner can take control of, and watch me cum on video. Through the app, he controls the rhythm and speed of the vibrator which also serves as one we can use as a couple in person (P/V) not only does it give us that bit of intimacy we crave, the toy charges pretty quick. It comes with its storage box along with a control for solo play, you know for those days you want to watch something to help get the big O.
An infinite playlist, this you can do on your favorite app. Sign up, create a playlist and both of you can add your favorite music to it. I’ve done it with friends, this would be a first time with a partner.
If you enjoy video games, take time to play alone with each other. Sure, it usually the more the merrier but at times it’s nice to have your partner to yourselves.
Last, but not least, these are some suggestions that have worked in my case. Communication has been a big deal in this relationship and making sure we are on the same page. Each couple works things out differently, this time around I plan to document my journey not only for my entertainment but to help others see that even the impossible is possible.
